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Couples and Relationships
GOTTMAN'S LOVE MAPS EXERCISE
It's not easy carving out quality time for your partner, but when you do, do you find that end up talking about the same issues: financial problems, family stress, challenges with kids, and other problems? By the end of the conversation do you sometimes feel more disconnected than before? Read about simple steps you can take (and I mean simple) that can help you feel more connected.
THE FOUR HORSEMAN--WHAT PREDICTS DIVORCE?
The first step toward improving or enhancing your marriage is to understand what happens when relationships fail. This has been well documented by Dr. John Gottman’s extensive research into couples that were not able to save their marriages. Learning about the failures can prevent your relationship from making the same mistakes – or rescue it if it already has.
ANTIDOTE TO THE FOUR HORSEMEN
Even the most successful relationships have conflict. Our research has shown that it’s not the appearance of conflict, but rather how it’s managed that predicts the success or failure of a relationship. We say “manage” conflict rather than “resolve,” because relationship conflict is natural and has functional, positive aspects. The first step in effectively managing conflict isto identify and fight The Four Horsemen when they arrive in your conflict discussions. To do otherwise is to risk serious problems in the future of your relationship. Below, we share antidotes for fighting off The Four Horsemen in your relationship:
HOW TO REDUCE YOUR USE OF THE FOUR HORSEMEN.
All couples experience conflict, but researchers have found that how partners deal with this conflict has major implications for the longevity of their relationship. In particular, leading couples researcher John Gottman and his colleagues have identified four specific behaviors, which they call the “four horsemen of the apocalypse, “ that spell doom for couples.
To help you guard against these “four horsemen,” this exercise teaches you to recognize them and consider more constructive alternatives. Understanding the signs of these toxic behaviors is a vital step toward avoiding them and having a healthier response to conflict.